I’ve had one of the worst weekends ever. My husband are not doing well as a couple. It was suggested to us we attend a very well known couple’s communication event designed for Veterans, EMS etc.
The couples were divided into either the veteran role or the spouse roll. Both my husband and are veterans both with an OSI. I chose to attend the spouse meeting and husband attend the other classes.
One of the facilitators is ex-Military. My first meeting with this man and the military wives was horrible. This man used the f*ck like it was a comma. He spoke to women like were in basic training. He is yelling that we deserve to be treated better by our partners and he’s talking to us like crap. He was very hypocritical!
He even told us his background was being a civilian mediator for the CF for CO’s and NCO’s in reference to “sexual harassment cases. The disturbing thing was when he talked about being a mediator he used air quotations and said he deals with the “sexual harassment fun stuff”. I really did not know how to take that statement except i was very triggered. This guy spoke in a aggressive over the top manner. I ended up calling him out on his behaviour.
I called him a f*ucking asshole He looked at me and told me was glad he was getting in my face and that he was doing his job. I responded back with I had seen his type numerous times when i was in the military and they are all assholes. I saw my harasser from when I was in the Military in this guy standing in front of me. I was horribly triggered by this guy. There is more to my story but this is the condensed version.
I am now left a complete and emotional wreak. I am angry, feeling betrayed because I thought it was going to be safe place.. again all the feelings are right at the surface from my incident in the army. I am too stressed out to eat or even sleep. I told my husband to leave me alone. I don’t want to talk to anyone.